{"id":1767,"date":"2022-10-21T15:35:16","date_gmt":"2022-10-21T13:35:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hasard2vies.com\/?p=1767"},"modified":"2022-10-21T17:00:20","modified_gmt":"2022-10-21T15:00:20","slug":"il-etait-une-fois","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hasard2vies.com\/index.php\/2022\/10\/21\/il-etait-une-fois\/","title":{"rendered":"Il \u00e9tait une fois…"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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\u00a0Approchant la quarantaine et voulant croire que toute la vie lui appartenait encore, cette femme blonde avan\u00e7ait sur son chemin, oscillant entre sa part d’enfant et sa part d’adulte. Elle pouvait passer du rire aux doutes, en une fraction de seconde, d\u00e9stabilis\u00e9e par un mot ou une attitude venu(e) la toucher.<\/p>

Comme tout un chacun elle avait eu son lot de chagrins, de d\u00e9sillusions, d’erreurs commises et de pardons demand\u00e9s. Tr\u00e9buchant, tombant, elle gardait cette volont\u00e9 d’apprendre d’elle-m\u00eame, de ses choix, et surtout, elle souhaitait se conna\u00eetre quand la fin du chemin se pr\u00e9senterait.<\/p>

Aujourd’hui allait d\u00e9buter le premier jour du reste de sa vie.<\/p>

Elle ne voulait plus vivre dans son ombre. Cette ombre qui lui collait \u00e0 la peau. Celle o\u00f9 elle allait se r\u00e9fugier, de peur d’exister, de peur de d\u00e9ranger, de peur d’\u00eatre vue. Celle qui justifiait qu’elle se mette d’elle-m\u00eame \u00e0 l’\u00e9cart des autres, de la vie.<\/p>

Avant sa venue au monde, dans le ventre de sa maman, cette petite fille a \u00e9t\u00e9 ab\u00eem\u00e9e. Un s\u00e9isme \u00e9motionnel est venu la frapper, elle et sa maman. Un choc. Un drame. Dans le sillon desquels elle allait d\u00e9buter son incarnation terrestre.<\/p>

La mort, le deuil, et la perte sont venus frapper sa famille. Et cette petite fille est n\u00e9e trois mois apr\u00e8s. Dans le souvenir et la douleur de celle qui venait de partir. Habill\u00e9e du sentiment de jamais \u00eatre \u00e0 la hauteur et de devoir trouver sa place bien \u00e0 elle, au milieu d’une fratrie de trois gar\u00e7ons et d’une maison tiraill\u00e9e entre le chagrin et la joie accompagnant son arriv\u00e9e.<\/p>

Ses d\u00e9buts ont \u00e9t\u00e9 teint\u00e9s par les \u00e9motions v\u00e9cues par sa maman, et d’elle-m\u00eame elle s’est mise en retrait dans le ventre de cette derni\u00e8re. Pour ne pas prendre trop de place. Pour ne pas d\u00e9ranger sa maman. Pour la laisser vivre son deuil.<\/p>

Ces \u00e9motions venues la percuter, dans un milieu qu’elle croyait s\u00e9curis\u00e9, s\u00fbr, se sont inscrites en elle. Ont fa\u00e7onn\u00e9 la personne qu’elle allait devenir, se m\u00ealant aux siennes, effa\u00e7ant la fronti\u00e8re entre ses \u00e9motions \u00e0 elle et celle de sa maman.<\/p>

Pas facile de trouver sa l\u00e9gitimit\u00e9. D’\u00eatre celle qui arrive apr\u00e8s celle qui vient de partir. D’\u00eatre deux en une. D’\u00eatre la petite derni\u00e8re. La seule fille. Celle qui reste.<\/p>

Voulant \u00eatre accueillie et reconnue par ses fr\u00e8res, elle a d\u00e9velopp\u00e9 un c\u00f4t\u00e9 gar\u00e7on. Pour \u00eatre accept\u00e9e. Pour gommer sa place particuli\u00e8re.<\/p>

En grandissant, cette fille a toujours \u00e9t\u00e9 partag\u00e9e entre l’envie d’\u00eatre vue, elle, et celle de ne pas l’\u00eatre. L’envie d’\u00eatre toujours rassur\u00e9e, de savoir qu’on l’aimait et celle d’\u00eatre ind\u00e9pendante, forte.<\/p>

Pleine d’antagonismes et de contradictions, cette jeune femme avan\u00e7ait sans trop savoir o\u00f9 elle voulait aller.<\/p>

Jusqu’au jour o\u00f9 elle a eu envie d’\u00eatre elle-m\u00eame, combinant sa sensibilit\u00e9 \u00e0 sa force. L’envie de renouer avec la petite fille qui a d\u00e9barqu\u00e9 dans un dr\u00f4le de monde mais qui affichait toujours un sourire. Comme pour venir consoler sa maman et son papa. Leur redonner \u00e0 eux aussi l’envie de sourire.<\/p>

A l’approche de la quarantaine, cette femme a (enfin) envie de s’aimer pleinement et d’assumer qui elle est. De sortir de l’ombre dans laquelle sa vie a d\u00e9but\u00e9, et aussi de son ombre. Et de continuer \u00e0 sourire, quoiqu’il advienne. Car son sourire, c’est sa plus grande force.<\/p>

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